Chapter One

I once had someone I know tell me they were anti-marriage because they felt like marriage is a dream killer. This conversation took place 3 months into my marriage, by the way.

Yeah, exactly what I wanted to hear obviously.

I remember thinking to myself that I was sorry that's what they thought of marriage. The argument presented was that because you have the financial responsibility of someone else, all hopes and dreams of travel and goals have to be put on the back burner.

Well, that's one way to look at it.

It's funny, the timing of this conversation. It came at a particularly difficult time in my life. I was newly married and at a crossroads. I had not been accepted into the business school at BYU and I was told by several advisors on separate occasions that I would have to choose - BYU or a business degree. This was followed by a recommendation to transfer and pamphlet for UVU.

I'm not sure if to this one anti-marriage person I seemed to have let my dreams die. And I could have easily looked at my husband to blame for my failures. He distracted me when I could have been studying. Our relationship came at an inconvenient time.

OR

I could own up to the fact that I didn't study hard enough and I let myself get distracted. It's my own fault that I had to re-route my education and life plans, not the fact that I met the love of my life and decided to get married.

My transfer to UVU has actually brought unexpected blessings into our lives. For one, I'm able to study what I want. I was also just offered a full time position at the university, which awards both me and Jason a tuition waiver. We no longer have to worry about paying for school.

I've been married almost a year and I am by-far no expert (obviously). But I do know that it's unfortunate that some people view marriage as a distraction and inconvenient. Because of my husband, I have someone to rub my feet and shoulders when I get home from a long, stressful day of work or school. I have a personal cheerleader who helps me get through my hardest days. I have a road-trip buddy and a Disneyland partner. I will always have my best friend to travel with for the rest of my life.

Life can be adventurous whether you're poor, rich, single, or not.

So here's an account of our proceedings in life for your enjoyment.

Like the rest of the world, I'm just taking it one day at a time.

It's fine. I can live like this.

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